{"href":"https://api.simplecast.com/oembed?url=https%3A%2F%2Fcollective-cafe-to-go.simplecast.com%2Fepisodes%2Fhot-words-aYWCqi5c","width":444,"version":"1.0","type":"rich","title":"Hot Words","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/6623e76f-93e5-4ec1-8b0c-20fa30b28adb/9719ad5e-cdf0-4496-8e78-b5501c4ea010/604201d1a39d1c982853d1a1914da248.png","thumbnail_height":300,"provider_url":"https://simplecast.com","provider_name":"Simplecast","html":"<iframe src=\"https://player.simplecast.com/dfa3024d-af92-491e-821f-076000e57f67\" height=\"200\" width=\"100%\" title=\"Hot Words\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"></iframe>","height":200,"description":"We continued our live read of Crucial Conversations and today was all about skills for mastering your stories. The steps are as follows:\nRetrace your Path\nNotice your Behavior\nPut your Feelings into Words\nAnalyze your Stories\nGet Back to the Facts\nWatch for 3 Clever Stories (Victim, Villain and Helpless)\nTell the Rest of the Story (Victims become Actors, Villains become Humans, Helpless become Able) \nThis was episode 180 of our week-daily virtual coffee, which takes place in Konktown’s discord server: discord.gg/konktown and Clubhouse’s Startup Club House from 8-9am EST. It's free and open to anyone from anywhere in the world.\nSome of the key highlights from today's discussion included:\nDiscussing skills for mastering our stories, such as retracing our path, putting feelings into words, analyzing stories, and telling the rest of the story\nThe importance of separating facts from subjective interpretations in stories\nRecognizing \"clever stories\" like victim, villain, and helpless stories that people tell to justify actions\nLearning to question our own role in problems rather than see ourselves only as victims \nThe value of humanizing others rather than making villain stories in order to improve communication\nTaking responsibility and accountability for our own actions and using dialogue skills rather than feeling helpless\nShow notes based on our discussion (as per Otter.ai's beta tool):\n \nCrucial Conversations book and avoiding passive aggression. (1:27)\nControlling emotions through storytelling. (5:31)\nRecognizing and managing emotions. (11:00)\nStorytelling and emotional control. (16:59)\nSeparating facts from subjective interpretations. (23:03)\nCrucial conversations and self-justifying stories. (28:57)\nStorytelling and its impact on relationships. (35:39)\nStorytelling and its impact on behavior. (39:43)\nSelf-justification through storytelling. (44:12)\nSelf-awareness and empathy in communication. (48:25)\nImproving communication and relationships at work. (53:11)\nOvercoming emotional blocks in communication. (58:26)"}