{"href":"https://api.simplecast.com/oembed?url=https%3A%2F%2Fperspectives-with-sharon-pearson-cd08217f.simplecast.com%2Fepisodes%2F214aa972-789Cx27t","width":444,"version":"1.0","type":"rich","title":"Reclaiming Your Core Self | #PERSPECTIVES with Sharon Pearson","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/a0db931b-7fbe-4b15-9484-011dc7220977/0b4dfb24-3718-44ce-9ace-245cd2152881/1.jpg","thumbnail_height":300,"provider_url":"https://simplecast.com","provider_name":"Simplecast","html":"","height":200,"description":"Join Sharon live In New York as part of her world tour, as she talks about reclaiming our core selves. None of us are born with negative self-talk, limiting beliefs, or any of the other mental and emotional issues that plague us as adults. We are born at one with our surroundings and our selves. The goal of coaching, the TCI way, is to return to this state. \r\n\r\nGet your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020\r\n\r\nKEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: \r\n\r\n0.23 At our core is who we are meant to be and who we were when we were born\r\n•\tThere’s spontaneity, warmth, pure emotion. No censorship, no thought, no permission\r\n•\tWe were the world, we were the universe. Everything was a reflection of us, because we didn’t know awareness except through others\r\n•\tThe goal in coaching our way, is to get back to that\r\n•\tBut you’ve got to get through the crud\r\n•\tThe negative self talk, the darkness, the limiting beliefs, the low self esteem, the fears, the shame\r\n•\tA kid under 5 sees no difference between themselves and the world around them\r\n•\tThen we start hearing the word no\r\n•\tWe here you can’t, you don’t, you shouldn’t, I can’t believe you did that\r\n•\tBecause we’re young, and there’s no difference between us and the world, everything we hear is true\r\n•\tWe have no way of defending our selves from it, if it’s said by a magical big person, it’s the truth\r\n•\tAnd we internalize it\r\n•\tThis is the work that we will do, to undo that internalization and that conditioning\r\n\r\n\r\n6.05 The journey in coaching is to get through the crud and get back to the core\r\n•\tSo who has some crud to work through?\r\n•\tAudience member: I have a fear of public speaking due to being laughed at at a young age\r\n•\tSharon: So can I ask you a question? Who is your best self?\r\n•\tAM: I love people, I see good in everyone, I’m here for a purpose, and I need to help others, and I have to put my fear aside\r\n•\tSharon: Your best self already has put her fear aside. She’s looking pretty amazing to me, she has passion, she has purpose, she makes a difference. Tell me more about her\r\n•\tAM: I want to be a great example for my children\r\n•\tSharon: Your best self is a great example\r\n•\tAM: Yes, I am a great example for my family, I’m a great coach, I have self confidence, and I’m a great speaker!\r\n•\tSharon: Your amazing, you just met the truth, and boy was she ready to come out! That’s not always the case. \r\n\r\n10.17 Audience member shares about working through her frustration with her son’s reaction to her coaching\r\n\r\n14.25 Audience member shares about her shame about her emotions stemming from a parent’s lack of vulnerability\r\n\r\n16.31 Sharon: So this model, to me, has been a lifeline for me\r\n•\tMost of us as children, were never allowed to emote fully to completion\r\n•\tWe would start an emotion, and it would be interrupted by a big person\r\n•\tDon’t pull that face around me young man, knock that off, big boys don’t cry, if you’re going to cry go to you’re room\r\n•\tAn emotion interrupted as a child, is what we link shame to\r\n•\tThen instead of feeling that emotion properly, we feel shame\r\n•\tSo we need to figure out, what emotions have I not allowed myself to have\r\n•\tAnd can I be present to someone who I can trust, who will let me experience that emotion, fully, to completion, without shaming or interrupting\r\n•\tIt’s called mirroring or witnessing\r\n•\tI did this exercise many times, and it’s how I got from the crud to the core\r\n\r\n19.45 It might have gone like this\r\n•\tWhen I was younger I was shamed when I didn’t speak well in front of one of my parents friends\r\n•\tI realize now, that wasn’t okay, in fact I’m kind of pissed off about it\r\n•\tIt’s ridiculous that I was expected to be perfect as a child\r\n•\tAnd my witness partner might say “tell me more” \r\n•\tI’m six years old, and I’m expected to be perfect around big people, who know the rules, and don’t tell me the rules until I break the rules? \r\n•\tHow am I supposed to get that right at that age? That’s ridiculous\r\n•\tMy witness partner said “that’s not okay”\r\n•\tI reclaimed what I know should have happened when I was six years old\r\n•\tI was validated as I should have been at the time\r\n•\tAnd through doing this, we break through the crud, one bit at a time\r\n•\tWe reclaim us\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nOTHER RESOURCES: \r\n•\tWorld Tour – www.tci.rocks/worldtour \r\n•\tUltimate You Book - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/book \r\n•\tUltimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com \r\n•\tUpcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings \r\n•\tSharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com \r\n•\tDisruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/\r\n•\tPhone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 \r\n•\tThe Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach \r\n•\tFeedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com \r\n•\tPerspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube\r\n"}