{"href":"https://api.simplecast.com/oembed?url=https%3A%2F%2Fperspectives-with-sharon-pearson-cd08217f.simplecast.com%2Fepisodes%2Fd6f6a6aa-jkykESNe","width":444,"version":"1.0","type":"rich","title":"How to Stop Living on Autopilot | #PERSPECTIVES with Sharon Pearson","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/a0db931b-7fbe-4b15-9484-011dc7220977/0b4dfb24-3718-44ce-9ace-245cd2152881/1.jpg","thumbnail_height":300,"provider_url":"https://simplecast.com","provider_name":"Simplecast","html":"","height":200,"description":"Join Sharon and Glam as they discuss conscious living, the power of questioning our routines, beliefs and behaviours, and developing the power to differentiate ourselves from those around us, while still maintaining our ability to feel a sense of belonging. \r\n\r\nGet your FREE getting started as a successful life coach gift pack here: https://tci.rocks/gift-pack-2020\r\n\r\n**Order the Ultimate You book here to receive exclusive bonus instantly: https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you**\r\n\r\nKEY TOPICS AND TIME STAMPS: \r\n\r\n**0.22 Glam: One of the things that I love is a concept you share in your book about conscious living**\r\n•\tThere’s unconscious things, beliefs, the muck, in all of our lives that hold us back from moving forward\r\n•\tSharon: The muck, I agree\r\n•\tI would say most of us have lived years automatically\r\n•\tYears getting up, getting ready the same way, going to work the same way, reacting the same way to people, getting defensive the same way, rejecting feedback the same way and then thinking life somehow is going to be different\r\n•\tWe have to start questioning, how automatic am I being in this moment? How reactive am I being in this moment? How can I be more conscious in this moment?\r\n•\tGlam: And what I love about it, is it actually walks you the process of that\r\n•\tSharon: Right, as I’ve said many times, being told the answer is within is super unhelpful if you look in and you just feel like crap\r\n•\tI wrote the book the way I wished I’d been taught at the beginning of the journey, that there are ways of looking within we can train our minds and our consciousness to start taking care of us\r\n\r\n\r\n**7.57 Sharon: Let’s challenge our beliefs**\r\n•\tI used to hold dear the belief that I couldn’t trust people. That’s just turned 180\r\n•\tI had to challenge that belief consciously for many years before I could arrive at a different place\r\n•\tThere’s always a tension between rigidity and permeability \r\n•\tSo rigidity would be exampled by my way is the right way\r\n•\tThere's black and white thinking, there's absolutism\r\n•\tOn the opposite extreme in the dichotomy is the permeability\r\n•\tSome people have been raised where anything goes where your right simply because you're so special because you're perfect in every single way\r\n•\tSo one of those is our automatic default mode\r\n•\tIf we want progress we have to have a go at doing something different, seeing things differently\r\n\r\n\r\n**15.58 Another balance is, do I belong, or do I differentiate?**\r\n•\tAnd am I belonging for reasons that are for my own wellbeing, or because of pressure from the group?\r\n•\tHow far can I differentiate before the tension gets to be too much?\r\n•\tWe often mix up love and loyalty, we define love as not rocking the boat, existing within the rules of the group\r\n•\tWe have to learn how we can belong as a differentiated self\r\n•\tThat’s emotional maturity, when I can hold both in the one space\r\n•\tWhere I can sit with my family, be myself even if it bothers someone, and still feel like I belong\r\n•\tAnd I will never know me unless I'm prepared to hold that space for me\r\n•\tAnd when you first do it, it’s not pretty\r\n•\tBut once you do it, share it with somebody and say I had a go and it was messy\r\n•\tAnd that’s the first step\r\n\r\n\r\n**OTHER RESOURCES:** \r\n•\tUltimate You Book - https://tci.rocks/order-ultimate-you\r\n•\tUltimate You Quest Telecast - www.ultimateyouquest.com \r\n•\tUpcoming Events at The Coaching Institute - www.thecoachinginstitute.com.au/trainings \r\n•\tSharon’s New Website - www.sharonpearson.com \r\n•\tDisruptive Leadership- https://www.disruptiveleading.com/\r\n•\tPhone The Coaching Institute - 1800 094 927 \r\n•\tThe Coaching Institute Fan Page – https://www.facebook.com/BecomeALifeCoach \r\n•\tFeedback/Reviews/Suggest a top to be discussed - perspectives@sharonpearson.com \r\n•\tPerspectives YouTube Channel – https://www.tci.rocks/youtube\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n"}