{"href":"https://api.simplecast.com/oembed?url=https%3A%2F%2Fpleasure-bound.simplecast.com%2Fepisodes%2F20-4fYVQ6FZ","width":444,"version":"1.0","type":"rich","title":"Ep. 20 The Art of Loving Yourself — Xian Horn on Disability, Beauty, and Owning Your Light","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/9c6be963-73ae-478a-b2bd-a58a58b10f7a/0b753e9f-a45d-4738-ad32-448bdc63a50f/pleasure_bound.jpg","thumbnail_height":300,"provider_url":"https://simplecast.com","provider_name":"Simplecast","html":"","height":200,"description":"Xian is a disability and beauty advocate, Forbes contributor, and founder of Give Beauty Wings, a nonprofit dedicated to self-esteem, leadership, and empowerment. Her work has taken her to the United Nations, the White House, and some of the world's most influential institutions — but in this conversation, Kelsey gets to experience the vulnerability behind the advocacy.\n\nXian opens up about growing up with cerebral palsy in New York City, the revolutionary parenting that gave her an \"only child bubble\" of unconditional love, and how rock bottom at age 15 reshaped her understanding of self-worth. She shares the origin story of Give Beauty Wings, her philosophy that comparison exists so we can discover what we uniquely have to offer, and why she believes loving yourself is a daily practice — not a destination.\n\nThe conversation covers dating, desire, and disability: what it means to navigate romance as a disabled woman, the difference between sex as validation and sex as celebration, and why Xian has chosen celibacy as an act of sovereignty. She speaks candidly about body image, the assumptions people make about disabled sexuality, and her message to anyone who has ever felt like they weren't enough."}