{"href":"https://api.simplecast.com/oembed?url=https%3A%2F%2Fthe-influential-nonprofit.simplecast.com%2Fepisodes%2Fcontrol-avoidance-or-trust-TiWSDR9U","width":444,"version":"1.0","type":"rich","title":"Control, Avoidance or Trust?","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://image.simplecastcdn.com/images/3becd91a-de88-4be0-8355-ddcbbbb07410/35e2bb2d-3dad-4776-83da-013a38ac7638/courageouscommunication-podcastcover-v2.jpg","thumbnail_height":300,"provider_url":"https://simplecast.com","provider_name":"Simplecast","html":"","height":200,"description":"When a donor goes quiet, should you follow up—or let go? This episode explores how to tell the difference between trust, control, and avoidance, and how to act without trying to control someone else’s choice.\n\n\n\nKey Takeaways:\n\nThe same action or inaction can come from trust, control, or avoidance; examine what’s driving it.\n\nFollow up to offer useful information or an invitation, not just to relieve your own uncertainty.\n\nAcceptance means recognizing reality and responding; avoidance means trying not to experience something uncomfortable.\n\nDo your part, then respect where your agency ends and another person’s begins.\n\nFundraising is about making a genuine “yes” possible, not pressuring someone into giving.\n\n\n\n“Control tries to escape uncertainty by doing more. Avoidance tries to escape uncertainty by doing less.”\n\n\n\n“Trust is the ability to stay present without certainty.”\n\n\n\n“You can want something deeply without needing to control it, and you can care about a relationship without chasing it.” \n\n- Maryanne Dersch\n\n\n\n\nLet’s Work Together to Amplify Your Leadership + Influence\n\n1. Group Coaching for Nonprofit Leaders\n\nWant to lead with more clarity, confidence, and influence? My group coaching program is designed for nonprofit leaders who are ready to communicate more powerfully, navigate challenges with ease, and move their organizations forward.\n \n\n2. Team Coaching + Training\n\nI work hands-on with nonprofit teams to strengthen leadership, improve communication, and align around a shared vision. Whether you’re growing fast or feeling stuck, we’ll create more clarity, collaboration, and momentum—together.\n \n\n3. Board Retreats + Trainings\n\nYour board has big potential. I’ll help you unlock it. My engaging, no-fluff retreats and trainings are built to energize your board, refocus on what matters, and generate real results.\n\n\n\nGet your free starter kit today at www.theinfluentialnonprofit.com\n\n\nConnect with Maryanne about her coaching programs:\n\nhttps://www.courageouscommunication.com/connect\n\n\n\nBook Maryanne to speak at your conference:\n\nhttps://www.courageouscommunication.com/nonprofit-keynote-speaker"}